We help you to create conscious relationship. That is a relationship where you are clear on your hopes, dreams, fears and values. It is one where you are interdependant, that is, you have both self-awareness and other-awareness. You are experts on each other. We give you both the education in what that is, and help you develop the skills to co-create the relationship you both desire.

High level communication is of course crucial to having a quality relationship - yet we rarely get any training in it! So we will give you both the information on the theory of what good communication is as well as the practice so that you develop the skills. This involves keeping your nervous systems calm, understanding attachment styles, and discovering how to feel truly heard.

Relationship counselling and coaching isn't just for couples. Everyone needs to learn how to have quality relationships. If you're not in a relationship we can help you understand what it takes to be in a good one, look at what awareness and skills you need to develop, and support you to find one. If you are already in a relationship we can work one-on-on to help you as a couple.

There are so many ways to be in relationship. At the LoveLife Clinic we believe love is love however it manifests. We are a judgement-fee zone! So we support same-sex couples, thrupples, consensually non-monogamous relationships, kinky couples, swingers, sex workers, asexual relationships as well as monogamous heterosexual couples.

Your relationship probably started well, but how do you keep it going strong? Particularly when you come together later in life you have a whole history or relationships and well-formed ways of being in relationship (not always helathy!). So it can be challenging to co-create a positive, healthy relationship. We can help you with the skills and knowledge you need.

The logistics of living take up a lot of time in life. This is particularly so when you have children, when work becomes busy or there are challenges such as financial stress, illness or aging parents. It's vital that you work well together as teammates in the game of life. This leads to the fundamental relationship needs of respect, equality, acknowledgement and appreciation.

Having a strong friendship is fundamental to a good relationship. It's a big part of what attracted you in the beginning but time for it can shrivel with the other demands of life. We can help you maintain and enhance your friendship by creating space and intention in your life so that you can remember how much you like each other and can create time and space to enjoy quality time in each other's company.

Connecting as lovers doesn't just mean having sex occasionally. You can have sex without love - obligation, duty, entitlement - but it's not good. To connect as lovers means sharing a vital loving-sexual energy in small, meaningful ways all through life. You continue to see each other as lover. In this way you cultivate a unique relationship that feels loved-up and connected. Let us help you create that relationship,

It is important to develop your relational skills to prevent conflict where possible. But inevitably you will ineadvertently upset each other, or stresses from outside the relationship will impact you negatively. So it is important to learn to manage ruptures when they occur, firstly to minimise their magnitude, and secondly to repair well once they've happened. This is a crucial relationship skill.

Infidelity is a major rupture in a relationship and one that is difficult to recover from without professional support. We are that support and can help you individually and as a couple as you go through journey of understanding and healing. It's not easy, but with commitment and patience very often the outcome is a better relationship than you had before.

It can feel like a wilderness out there in the dating world! So it can be helpful to have one of us 'hold your hand' as you explore the dating world. We'll help you get clear about the type of person you are looking for, coach you on how to manage communications and interactions, be a sounding board and offer supportive advice along the way.

Often when people get together later in life there are children on one or both sides. It's not just about two people merging their lives, it's about two families blending. This can be a challenge, both for the parents and the step-parents. We can help you navigate this challenge and assist you in co-creating an harmonious approach to co-parenting and managing your blended family.

When you aren't happy in your relationship it's easy to fall into 'relationship limbo', endlessly balancing the good and the bad, wondering if you should stay or go... Our therapists can help you clarify if there are dealbreakers which mean you should go, or if the relationship can be improved so you can stay. Then help you move forward either way.

Sadly, despite good intentions, sometimes it is best for a relationship to end. It is important to end the relationship amicably, to avoid feelings of bitterness and hatred, which will affect your future life. This is particularly important if you have children. This can be challenging, so our therapists can help guide you through with calmness and care.

If you have just come out of a relationship it is useful to review it to see what went well and what didn't go so well. You can reflect on your own part in the challenges, get clearer on the dynamic that led to the relationship's demise, and gain insights on both how to choose a more suitable partner and/or how to have more supportive relational dynamics in the next one.

Marriage is a beautiful and deep commitment. So it's important that you understand what you are committing to and know how to work well together to keep your marriage strong, loving and long-lasting. We'll explore what your marriage values and expectations are, ensure they are aligned, and teach you the skills to manage the inevitable challenges that will arise.