Mention the words sex therapy and people’s imaginations tend to run wild.

Over the years, I’ve heard just about every assumption you can think of,  from fears that it will be awkward or confronting, to concerns that it might be explicit, hands-on, or even inappropriate.

The irony is that most people who actually come to sex therapy leave saying the same thing:

“I wish I’d done this sooner. It wasn’t anything like I imagined.”

So let’s clear up some of the most common myths.

Myth 1: Sex therapy is hands-on or sexual 

This is by far the biggest misconception. 

Sex therapy is talk-based, just like other forms of therapy. There is no sexual contact. We talk about sex, we don’t do sex. 

The work focuses on understanding patterns, communication, beliefs, nervous systems, emotions, and relationships. Any practices or exercises are done outside the session, by choice, and at your pace.

Myth 2: It’s going to be awkward or embarrassing

Most people expect discomfort — and are surprised by relief.

Once sex is spoken about openly, without judgement or shock, the intensity drops. What often replaces embarrassment is a sense of normalisation.

People realise they’re not strange, broken, or alone — they are just normal human beings.

Myth 3: It will be heavy, confronting, or all about what’s wrong

While some conversations are tender, sex therapy is not about dissecting problems endlessly.

In fact, it’s often curious, creative, practical, and often very enjoyable.

The focus is on possibility, not pathology — on learning skills we were never taught, rather than fixing something that’s “wrong” with you.

Myth 4: You only go if something is seriously broken

Many people come to sex therapy because things are fine, but not as alive, connected, or easeful as they’d like.

Sex therapy isn’t just about crisis management. It’s about learning how intimacy actually works: emotionally, psychologically, relationally, and physiologically.

Think of it as education, not failure.

Myth 5: The therapist will judge me or tell me what’s normal

A good sex therapist is deeply non-judgemental.

The question isn’t “Is this normal?”

It’s “Is this working for you?”

Human sexuality is incredibly diverse. Therapy is about helping you understand what’s authentic, ethical, and satisfying for you. It's not about fitting into someone else’s idea of normal.

Myth 6: Sex therapy is about technique or performance

Most sexual difficulties are not solved by better technique.

They’re solved by:

• better communication
• greater emotional safety
• nervous system regulation
• deeper understanding of desire, arousal, and connection

Better sex usually comes from better relating, not better moves.

Myth 7: It’s only about sex

Sex is often the doorway — but rarely the whole story.

Sex therapy frequently touches:

• self-worth and confidence
• stress and burnout
• trauma and safety
• ageing bodies
• long-term relationships
• emotional intimacy

Sex problems are very rarely just about sex.

Myth 8: Talking about sex will make things worse

Avoidance creates far more tension than conversation.

Learning how to talk about sex, at the right pace, with safety and skill, reduces pressure and allows desire to return naturally.

Silence tends to harden patterns. Gentle, guided conversation softens them.

Myth 9: Sex therapy is only for couples

Many people come on their own.

Sex therapy can support individuals exploring:

• desire and libido
• confidence and body image
• trauma recovery
• orientation or identity
• changing needs across life stages

 Your relationship with sex begins with your relationship with yourself.

Myth 10: A sex therapist will push me to do things I’m not comfortable with

Ethical sex therapy is consent-led.

The goal is not to push boundaries, but to expand choice. Everything moves at the pace of safety, because without safety, intimacy can’t flourish anyway.

So what is sex therapy, really?

 At its best, sex therapy is:

• human
• hopeful
• practical
• deeply respectful

It’s not about fixing broken people.

It’s about helping ordinary people feel more at home in their bodies, their relationships, and their capacity for pleasure and connection.

And for many, that turns out to be far less scary — and far more liberating — than they ever expected.

I was reminded of something important in the clinic this week. A long-term client said to me, “Do you remember, early on, when you told me that your hope for me was that I would find joy in my sexuality?”

I did remember and I was so happy to hear that that comment had stayed with her. Because that really is the heart of my work: not fixing or striving for some ideal version of sex, but finding joy in it.

So many people arrive at the clinic carrying heaviness around sex - pressure, shame, confusion, disappointment, obligation. Sex becomes something to manage, negotiate, perform or endure, rather than something that nourishes and delights.

Yet when we start talking and look beneath all that heaviness, what most people are longing for in their sexuality is simple:

To feel at ease in their body.

To feel alive.

To feel pleasure without self-consciousness.

To feel connected to themselves, and to the other.

To feel joy.

Joy doesn’t mean fireworks every time. It doesn’t mean constant desire or endless novelty. And it certainly doesn’t mean “doing it right.” I like to think of joy as a felt sense of yes.

Yes to your body. Yes to sensation. Yes to curiosity. Yes to presence. Yes to allowing pleasure rather than chasing it.

For many of us, joy has slipped out of our sexual lives or was never really there. Not because we’ve failed, but because sex has become, or always was, burdened with expectation. 

What if, instead of striving for more, we softened into enjoyment? What if sexuality was less about effort, and more about allowing?

As we move into the festive season, my invitation is simple: Let joy be your compass.

Joy might look like slowing down, laughing together, choosing rest over obligation, touching without agenda, or simply being kinder to yourself.

Sexual healing doesn’t begin with technique. It begins when we remember that pleasure is allowed - and that joy is not something we earn, but something we reclaim.

There’s a moment that happens on every retreat I’ve ever led.

Sometimes it’s on the first evening, sometimes not until day two.

But it always comes.

A couple will arrive holding hands in that familiar way - comfortable, functional, slightly hurried.

Nice.

Safe.

Ordinary. 

And then, somewhere between the breathwork, the silence, the softness and the spaciousness… something shifts.

The hand-holding changes.

The eyes linger a little longer.

The body leans in without planning to.

The breath syncs.

Something old falls away, and something deeply familiar, but often long forgotten, stirs awake.

This is the moment a retreat is really for.

The remembering.

Why a retreat? Because life is loud.

Most couples are not disconnected because they don’t love each other.

They’re disconnected because they’re overwhelmed.

Overscheduled.

Overthinking.

Over-functioning.

Life becomes a series of logistics, decisions and responsibilities.

And within that, intimacy becomes something we fit in rather than something we live from.

You can’t drop into presence on a Tuesday night between the dishwasher and emails.

You can’t open your heart when you’re rushing.

You can’t access your sensual self when you’re managing, organising, caretaking, or simply exhausted.

A retreat is permission, sacred permission, to stop.

To exhale.

To unclench.

To soften the edges.

To hear each other again.

You step out of the noise long enough to feel the deeper currents that have been there all along.

The power of being held by a container

A retreat isn’t a holiday.

A holiday can be beautiful, but it doesn’t create transformation on its own.

A retreat is a container.

A sequence.

A held journey.

It’s curated intentionally — psychobiologically, relationally and spiritually — to allow you to move through layers:

• from nervous system tension into regulation
• from mental chatter into embodiment
• from habitual relating into conscious connection
• from sexual pressure into erotic aliveness
• from “us managing life” back to “us finding each other”

You’re not trying to figure it out yourselves.

You’re guided gently, intelligently, safely, through a process that opens the relational field between you.

This is why couples shift so dramatically, often in just a few days.

The nervous system finally gets a chance to settle.

The couple bubble becomes palpable.

Love becomes experiential, not conceptual.

Luxury as nourishment, not indulgence

I choose luxury venues not for extravagance, but because the body knows when it is safe to let go.

Soft sheets.

Beautiful surroundings.

Quiet gardens.

Spacious villas.

Warm lighting.

Food that feels like kindness.

These are not extras — they are conditions for opening.

When the environment holds you, your body can release the armour it has been carrying for years.

When your senses are soothed, intimacy becomes effortless.

Luxury is not about being fancy.

It is about being unhurried.

Unburdened.

Unrushed.

It is the texture of exhale.

You come home to yourselves...and to each other

One of my favourite things is when couples leave the retreat.

They walk differently.

More softly.

Closer.

Eyes brighter.

Shoulders relaxed.

Hands intertwined with meaning, not habit.

They leave:

• with a shared language
• with a deeper understanding of each other
• with erotic energy awakened
• with clarity
• with a renewed sense of “us”
• with tenderness
• with hope
• with tools that are not just practical, but soulful

And most importantly — they leave remembering the essence of their love, not just the logistics of their life.

A retreat is not an escape. It is a return.

A return to presence.

A return to softness.

A return to breath.

A return to touch.

A return to erotic aliveness.

A return to the quiet truth that brought you together in the first place.

In a world that asks you to move faster, produce more, and push through everything…

a retreat asks you to do the most radical thing of all:

Slow down.

Feel.

Be with each other.

Not as roles.

Not as problem-solvers.

But as lovers.

As humans.

As souls in connection.

Sometimes, that’s just what a relationship needs: a sacred pause.

The holiday season brings a familiar mix of joy, anticipation…and pressure. We want to give well, to show love, to express care…and yet sometimes gift-giving can feel confusing or even stressful. What will be meaningful? What will land? What will actually be appreciated?

When we look back on the gifts that truly stay with us, they may have been things or experiences, but they shared one quality: we felt known.

A book chosen because it spoke to our inner world /A piece of jewellery with a story behind it / A handwritten letter that touched a tender place /A weekend away where we finally relaxed together.

It wasn’t the object or the moment itself. It was the attunement inside it, the sense of you see me.

This is the heart of meaningful gift-giving in relationships: not the thing, but the knowing.

Gift-Giving as Attunement

True giving in relationship isn’t about being clever or impressive. It’s about presence.

Not giving what we think our partner should want. Not giving what we wish they would like. Not giving what we would choose for ourselves.

But giving from an awareness of:

• What helps them soften?
• What lights them up?
• What soothes their nervous system?
• What brings colour back to their cheeks?

A thoughtful gift says: I know who you are. I’m paying attention.

That is intimacy.

Including the Third: You, Me, and Us

In long-term relationships, there are always three of you: you, me and us.

The ‘us’ is the relational field, the atmosphere between you, the emotional ecosystem you co-create.

Most gifts are exchanged between two people. But some of the most meaningful gifts are those given to the relationship itself.

Not just: “What would you like?” or “What should I get for you?”

But: What would nourish the space we share? What would support the us?

This shift alone can transform a relationship.

Shared Presence is Often the Real Gift

Some of the most meaningful gifts are not grand or expensive. They are simple moments that restore connection. Such as:

• A slow walk together
• Cooking dinner with music playing
• A morning in bed without rushing anywhere
• A conversation that leaves you feeling closer
• Turning off phones and turning toward each other

These are gifts that feed the us. Presence is the real offering.

A Gentle Invitation This Season

So, as you move through the season of giving, you might ask:

What helps us feel close?

What nourishes the relationship?

What brings us back to ourselves, and to each other?

The answer might be:

• a thoughtful object
• a shared experience
• time
• tenderness
• attention
• presence

There is no right way. Only attuned way.

The greatest gifts are those given with care, curiosity, and love.

Everything else is wrapping.

Bringing Science and Soul Together in the Art of Loving

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on what makes my approach to therapy and teaching so distinctive and so effective. After more than two decades of working with couples and individuals, I’ve realised it’s not just about technique or insight. It’s something deeper.

Just recently, a couple who hadn’t had sex in twenty-five years found their way back to each other, and are now enjoying a sexual connection again. Those moments are profoundly satisfying, and they’ve helped me name what I actually do: Relational Sexology.

For most of modern history, we’ve treated sex and love as separate things: biology over here, emotion over there.

Therapists have worked with relationships. Doctors have worked with sexual function. Spiritual teachers have explored the sacred. But human beings don’t divide up so neatly.

When we love, we’re embodied.

When we desire, we’re emotional.

When we connect deeply, something larger than both of us comes alive.

Relational Sexology is the integration of all of this. It's the meeting point of science, psychology and the sacred. It’s an approach I’ve developed over decades of working with thousands of individuals and couples, combining evidence-based psychosexual therapy with mindfulness, somatic awareness, and a deep respect for our innate capacity for connection.

Why “Relational”?

Because we are wired for connection.

From our earliest attachment bonds to the way our nervous systems attune in intimacy, we are designed to regulate, grow and heal in relationship. In couples work, this means understanding that safety, desire and arousal are co-created experiences, not private events happening in isolation.

When we feel emotionally safe, our erotic energy can expand.

When we feel threatened or unseen, it shuts down.

So, relational work becomes the foundation for sexual wellbeing. Sexuality is always expressed relationally. It’s never just one person’s problem to fix, it lives within the dynamic between two people. There’s an ecosystem a couple inhabits, and both the challenges and the solutions arise within that shared field. When we understand that, everything changes. We stop pathologising individuals and start healing the relationship itself.

Why “Sexology”?

Because sexuality is not an add-on, it’s a vital expression of our aliveness.

As a field, sexology explores how our biology, psychology and culture shape sexual experience.

But too often, it stops at the surface, focusing on function, frequency or technique.

Relational Sexology goes deeper. It asks how we can inhabit our bodies with presence, curiosity and joy? How we can bring awareness to the erotic as a creative life force that nourishes both the self and the relationship?

The Integration

Relational Sexology is where the scientific meets the sacred  - grounded in clinical practice, yet open to the mystery of human connection.

It draws from neuroscience, attachment theory and psychobiological models of therapy. It’s informed by Tantra, mindfulness and transpersonal psychology.

The result is a holistic, compassionate way of understanding love and sex - not as problems to fix, but as paths of evolution and awakening.

In Practice

In therapy, couples retreats and online courses, Relational Sexology means creating safe spaces where people can reconnect to themselves and each other.

Where desire can be explored without judgement.

Where pleasure is seen as a practice of presence.

And where intimacy becomes not just an act, but a way of being.

Because when we approach sex relationally - with awareness, curiosity and courage - we don’t just improve our relationships.

We deepen our humanity.

We come home to ourselves.

So many men come to me worried about what their penis is doing - or not doing. Erections, ejaculation, performance, “lasting long enough.” It's as though sex has been reduced to a set of KPIs to measure against: Did it get up? Did it stay up? Did it finish in the “right” way?

This kind of focus does the very opposite of what good sex requires. When we monitor our genitals like an exam to pass, we create pressure. And pressure kills arousal. Instead of entering into intimacy with curiosity and openness, we clamp down. We disconnect from ourselves and our partners.

What’s missing here is the heart, the mind and the simple magic of connection.

The Problem with Performance Thinking

Our culture has trained us to think of sex as a linear, goal-oriented act: foreplay leads to intercourse, which leads to orgasm, which means success. Anything else is failure. That’s a heavy load to carry into the bedroom.

But sex isn’t a sporting event. It doesn’t need scorecards. It’s a meeting place of bodies, emotions and souls. And when we let go of performance thinking, the pressure eases. The focus shifts from “Am I doing it right?” to “How are we being together?”

Connection Creates Arousal

The paradox is that when we stop obsessing over erections, they tend to show up more reliably. Because what creates arousal isn’t pressure, it’s connection. Warmth, laughter, trust, affection, safety. These are the ingredients that invite the nervous system to relax and open. And from that place, desire and arousal can naturally emerge.

I’ve seen it time and again in my clinic: once couples shift their focus from penis performance to emotional presence, the sexual problems often resolve themselves.

A New Approach to Lovemaking

So what does it look like to move beyond performance and into connection?

• Non-linear lovemaking. Forget the “start here, end there” script. Explore touch, taste, sound, breath - in whatever order feels good.

• Pleasure over outcome. Sex isn’t about “getting off.” It’s about sharing pleasure. Orgasms are wonderful, but they’re an outcome, not the purpose. (As I like to say: if all you want is an orgasm, do it yourself - it’s quicker and easier!)

• Ditch the KPIs. Erections, ejaculation, orgasm - they happen when they happen. They’re not measures of worth or success.

• Prioritise presence. Look into your partner’s eyes. Breathe together. Feel the texture of skin under your fingers. Take your time. This is where intimacy lives.

From Genitals to Connection

When couples come to me distressed by erectile difficulties, the most powerful shift is often the simplest: take the spotlight off the penis, and shine it on the connection. Because when intimacy is rooted in presence, tenderness and play, the body follows.

Real sex is not about “functioning genitals.” It’s about two human beings meeting each other with openness and care. When that becomes the focus, erections and orgasms tend to take care of themselves.

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on what it really means to live a sex-positive life. It’s a phrase that gets thrown around a lot, sometimes reduced to slogans, sometimes misunderstood altogether. But at its heart, sex-positivity isn’t about being wild, or permissive, or endlessly adventurous. It’s about living with an orientation towards openness, kindness, curiosity and freedom from shame when it comes to sexuality, your own and others’.And right now, in a political climate that so often leans towards fear, restriction and moralising, that matters more than ever.

What Sex-Positivity Really Is

When I talk about sex-positivity, I’m not just talking about what happens in the bedroom. I’m talking about a lifestyle. A way of being in the world.

It’s the choice to meet your partner with tenderness instead of criticism.

It’s the willingness to talk about desire without fear.

It’s valuing pleasure as an essential part of health and wellbeing, not a frivolous extra.

It’s recognising that our sexual energy is deeply entwined with our life energy - and when we nurture one, we nurture the other.

Sex-positivity doesn’t mean “anything goes”. It means respecting boundaries and consent as sacred. It means understanding that shame is corrosive, while acceptance is liberating.

Why It Matters in the Current Climate

We live in a time when political and cultural forces often push in the opposite direction - towards repression, control and fear. Bodies become battlegrounds. Pleasure becomes suspect. Intimacy becomes something to regulate, rather than something to celebrate.

When we allow that mindset in, even subtly, it shows up in our bedrooms and our relationships. We second-guess ourselves. We downplay our desires. We live smaller, tighter lives.

That’s why choosing a sex-positive lifestyle is more than personal. It’s cultural. It’s even political. Every time you approach intimacy with openness instead of shame, every time you model respect, every time you nurture your erotic aliveness, you’re making a statement: my body, my pleasure, my love are worthy of honour, not control.

The Everyday Practice of Sex-Positivity

Sex-positivity isn’t abstract, it’s lived through daily choices and micro-moments.

- In your relationship: Seeing your sexual connection as a vital, nourishing part of the bond, not a taboo subject or optional extra. Talking about it openly and naturally, as a normal and natural part of life.

- In your family: Talking openly with children about bodies, boundaries and respect, instead of shrouding sexuality in silence or fear.

- In your friendships: Speaking honestly and kindly about love, relationships and intimacy, so that sexuality becomes something normalised rather than hidden.

- In yourself: Letting go of the inner critic, softening into pleasure, allowing yourself to feel without judgment.

These are quiet acts of liberation. They ripple outwards. They create relationships that are safer, warmer and more alive.

A Personal and Collective Act

When I work with couples, I often see how quickly things shift once shame lifts and acceptance enters. The spark comes back. The tenderness flows. People stand taller, breathe easier.

Imagine what could happen if that was true not just in our homes, but in our culture. Imagine a society that valued erotic aliveness as much as productivity. That honoured intimacy as deeply as achievement. That recognised sex as a force of healing, not something to be hidden.

We’re not there yet. But every couple who chooses openness, every individual who embraces their body, every parent who raises their child without shame, is helping us move closer.

Choosing Liberation

In times of fear and restriction, living a sex-positive life is an act of quiet courage. It’s not loud or defiant. It’s tender, playful, honest. It’s the courage to say: “I will not live small. I will not live cut off from my own erotic vitality. I choose connection. I choose pleasure. I choose love." That choice - repeated in the small, daily ways - is how we shift culture. One couple, one family, one body at a time.

So if you’ve ever wondered whether sex-positivity really matters, my answer is yes. It matters profoundly. For your own well-being, for your relationship, and for the world we’re building together.

To me, the erotic isn’t just about sex. It’s about life itself. It’s the pulse of aliveness that runs through us when we allow ourselves to feel: to savour, to soften, to delight.

When we touch the erotic, we are saying yes to life. We’re saying yes to our bodies, yes to each other, yes to this wild, improbable gift of being here at all. It’s why I often describe the erotic as a celebration of life’s goodness - because when we let ourselves feel it, we are honouring the fact that life is good.

The trouble is, we live in a world that teaches us to shut that part of ourselves down. We rush, we strive, we numb. We treat pleasure as frivolous, something we’ll get to later when the to-do list is done. But the erotic isn’t something to tick off at the end of the day. It’s a way of being: a choice to meet life with curiosity, wonder, and an open heart.

And yes, of course, it shows up in sex - in the way lovers move together, not just physically, but in presence and attention. But it’s also there in the way sunlight warms your skin on a cold morning, or the way a piece of music makes your chest ache, or the way you close your eyes to taste something truly delicious. The erotic is in every moment you allow yourself to be touched by life.

This is why I talk so much about erotic aliveness. It’s not about being “sexy” all the time; it’s about being awake to the world, awake to each other, awake to the simple fact that being here, breathing, feeling, is extraordinary.

So as you move through your days, I invite you to ask yourself: Where can I let the erotic in? What would it feel like to let myself be turned on by life itself?

Because every time you do, you’re celebrating life’s goodness. And that, to me, is truly erotic

When I sit with couples in session, I often find myself using metaphors to help them grasp complex dynamics in simple, relatable ways. One of my favourites — and one that never fails to click — is this:  

A good relationship is like a tripod.  

You know, one of those three-legged camera stands? It’s simple physics: three legs create stability. If one leg is weak or missing, the whole thing wobbles — or collapses altogether. It’s the same in love.  

So what are the three essential legs that keep a relationship standing strong?  

1. You are Teammates in the Game of Life 

This is the logistical leg — the realm of doing life together.  

You’re partners in the practical: managing the household, raising kids, juggling careers, navigating the never-ending admin of adult life. When this leg is strong, there’s a sense of capability and mutual respect. You’ve got each other’s backs. Things get done. You feel appreciated and aligned.  

When this leg is weak, couples often feel overwhelmed, unacknowledged, or out of sync. The load feels heavy — and unevenly carried.  

2. You are Friends 

This is the emotional leg — the realm of connection and companionship.  

You don’t just love each other — you like each other. You enjoy each other’s company. You laugh, you talk, you share stories, silly moments, the ups and downs. There’s a genuine fondness that goes beyond romance or obligation.  

(So many couples tell me they’re still “in love,” but I look at them and think: “Maybe… but do you actually like each other?”)  

Strong friendship in a relationship brings warmth, trust, and emotional ease. Without it? Things can feel dry, distant, or transactional.  

3. You are Lovers 

This is the erotic leg — the realm of passion and intimacy.  

You’re not just roommates who happen to share a bed. You’re lovers. And being lovers isn’t only about sex — it’s about sharing a sensual, loving energy that’s alive, embodied, and vital. It's about being open to each other erotically, not necessarily always doing, but being available for that energy to flow.  

This leg is about sexual polarity, playfulness, and pleasure. It’s about that potent energy that lifts your connection out of the mundane and reminds you that love can be electric.  

When this leg falters — and it often does in long-term relationships — couples can feel more like co-parents or flatmates. The spark fizzles. And often, they don’t know how to get it back.

 So… how’s your tripod?  

It’s such a useful check-in. If something feels off in your relationship, consider this: Which leg is wobbling? Are you functioning well as teammates? Are you enjoying each other as friends? Are you alive together as lovers?  

You don’t need to be perfect in all areas all the time — but if one leg is shaky, it’s time to pay attention. Because when all three are solid, you get that beautiful, stable, flourishing relationship that feels deeply safe and vibrantly alive.  

A behind-the-scenes reflection on the magic of couples retreats:

Over the years, I’ve watched hundreds of couples walk through the doors of my couples retreats. They come in carrying all kinds of things: tiredness, uncertainty, quiet hope, sometimes grief or disconnection. But quite soon, something shifts—something beautiful.

There’s laughter again. There’s touching, curiosity, softness. They begin to see each other again—not just as co-parents or co-managers of life, but as lovers, as partners, as two people who chose each other.

This is what happens when you give your relationship time, space, and sacred attention.

Because let’s be honest, life doesn’t usually make that easy. Between work and kids and to-do lists, it’s rare to have long, uninterrupted time to just be together. Not talking logistics. Not working things out. Just being. Connecting. Feeling. Loving.

That’s what a couples retreat is for. It’s not a luxury (although, yes, they are luxurious). It’s not therapy (though it’s deeply therapeutic). It’s not a lecture (though you’ll learn a lot). It’s an invitation. To pause. To drop in. To remember.

And it’s incredibly real. We talk about what intimacy actually is—emotionally, physically, spiritually. We explore communication, attachment, conflict, connection. We talk about sex—openly, honestly, and playfully. I teach a contemporary, grounded approach to Tantra, one that blends science and wisdom and makes sense in real life.

There’s time to be held. To be stretched. To ask questions you haven’t had the words for before. To share desires you didn’t know how to name. To rediscover the slow burn of erotic connection—not just the peaks of sex, but the valleys, the subtle simmer that sustains passion over time.

I watch couples go home with tools and language they didn’t have before. I watch them carry a new quality in their connection—a felt sense of “us” that’s stronger, safer, more playful, more alive.

Some arrive troubled. Others come simply because they value what they have and want to keep it thriving. Some are just curious. All are welcome.

This work is intimate, powerful, and yes, sacred. Every time I lead a retreat, I’m moved by the love I witness, and I’m reminded why I do this work.

Because relationships matter. Love matters. And when two people are willing to meet each other fully, with presence and courage, it changes everything.

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