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Can we please stop calling sex ‘dirty’!
And can we stop calling talking about sex ‘talking dirty’.
Think about the meaning of the word dirty: it means unclean, nasty, polluted, foul, sullied, squalid. Is that how you want to think about your sexuality?
Calling sex dirty buys into the old-fashioned view that sex is bad. And that leads to bringing up the shame so many people have around their sexuality. And it can keep people in a juvenile, unevolved sexuality that is crass and sleazy.
Instead of ‘dirty’, can I encourage you to talk ‘erotic’ instead?
The word ‘erotic’ is much better than ‘dirty’. It has positive connotations of sex, ones that are rich and luscious and sensual, not immature, coarse or sordid.
It’s much easier to drop into and let yourself go to the erotic than to the dirty. I mean, who wants to let go to something foul and squalid. We want to move away such things, not open up and embrace them.
Language is so important. And maybe the word ‘erotic’ isn’t the right one for you. Maybe the word for you is:
Amorous
Seductive
Sensual
Steamy
Lascivious
Titillating
Spicy
Arousing
Romantic
Tantilizing
Salacious
Sexy…
And look, possibly the word ‘dirty’ does work for you in a positive way. Which is fine, as long as it has positive connotations for you.
Whatever word is right for you, it’s one that makes you feel empowered and engaged.
So, get out the thesaurus and find the language that is right for you!…
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